This week has been strange, I have been asked Why Do You Still Do This? About planning weddings and producing networking events for my colleagues.
The reason this week was odd is I got asked the same question by several different people about two different things all in one week. It got me thinking, why are people asking? Why do they think I should not still be planning weddings or producing BAWN (Bay Area Wedding Network) events?
So me being me, I asked. It boiled down to two things, 26 years is a long time to be doing the same job, aren’t I tired of planning weddings wouldn’t I rather be doing something else? And producing the BAWN events is a thankless and time-consuming task, that you don’t get paid to do, why do you put yourself through it?
The more I thought about it, the more I realized these are good questions. I should dig deep to find the answers, not for the people asking but for me. Because if I don’t understand why I’m doing this, how can I expect engaged couples and colleagues to understand.
I took some time to consider, why am I still planning weddings, the easy answer I still like planning weddings. That is true, but if I pull back the layers a bit the deeper answer is I love, love. I enjoy being around people is love; I get a kick out of helping them express themselves through the celebration of their love. Sharing the journey of two individuals in love into a new family. I get enormous satisfaction helping my client’s find “their wedding”.
Yes, it is getting harder as I get older and yes there are days I don’t want to look at one more fabric swatch, but those days are few and far between. I still love what I do, so I keep doing it.
I also considered why I keep doing BAWN events. That took a little more thought, for nearly 17 years I have been producing BAWN events for my colleagues in the wedding community here in the San Francisco Bay Area. They are without question the most painful events I do. Creating events for event people should be easy right? WRONG!
No one on earth is harder to please than event people. To be fair, it’s not their fault; they know too much about events so they can be jaded. Creating events they will enjoy attending and derive benefit from is the hardest thing I do in my professional life. These events are difficult for a lot of reasons I will not bore you with all of them. The most painful, to be able to produce a BAWN event I have to ask my colleagues to donate goods and services. Asking for free stuff is not easy for me. Truth be told I hate it, I don’t hate much in this world, but I hate that.
Then I have to manage the egos and expectation of everyone who contributes. I cannot tell you why but when people donate, usually easy going extremely professional people go nuts. Either so demanding you want to say please take the three potted plants you are giving us and shove … well, you get the picture. Or once they agree to help they ignore you, getting necessary information you need to move forward is like pulling teeth, until the day before the event then they are right in your face. So why do I keep doing it?
Because I love my wedding community, and I believe in them. I want us to be the best we can be for our clients and each other. Wedding Planning requires teamwork; teams are made of strong individuals skilled in their specialty and able to work well with others. I keep doing the BAWN events because my wedding community as wonderful as it is, still has work to do to be recognized at an outstanding profession. As long as there is work to do, I’ll keep pushing the rock uphill.
There you have it, my friends that is why I still do this, with any luck, I’ll be able to keep doing it for many more years, fingers crossed. xoxo, Gwen