There is a term in the wedding planning vocabulary that I dislike; actually, I hate it. What are these dreaded words? “Day Of.”
Why do I hate this term so much? It is misleading, inaccurate and connotes a level of service no one should want. How do I really feel, right?
To me, the phrase evokes the notion that I just show up on the day of your wedding, without preparation or the opportunity to absorb what you want. It also implies that I will verify the orders you made and find any missed details, correct it, and guarantee a perfect day. Not likely to happen, no one is that good.
The term “Day Of” is used a lot but there is no standard definition. Every planner defines it differently, which is why I won’t use it. My comparable service to “Day Of” is Wedding Management.
The biggest difference between our management service and most others: no time frame. Many planners will let you hire them at any point but will not talk to you or start work on your wedding until 6-8 weeks prior to your wedding. You can hire me for Management at any point up to two weeks before your wedding. Anything less than two weeks does not allow enough time for me to review the details of your wedding. Or have meaningful conversations with you and your team. Two years or two weeks before your wedding date, it doesn’t matter. Although the more time I have, the better I like it and in the end, so will you.
For me Management is not a formula, there are no set number of meeting, calls, etc. There is a “total, not to exceed the number of hours”, if you need ten meetings and 12 phone calls or 2 meeting and 50 phone calls within those hours, that is what it takes.
Know what you want
You MUST know what you want. Don’t assume one planner’s “Day Of” is the same as another. Be sure you understand very clearly what they will and will not do. The last thing you want (or need) the week of your wedding is to be stressed by your “Day Of” service and unmet expectations or misunderstandings.
Management is the service for you if you want to plan your wedding, vet and hire your vendors, make all the arrangements before turning it over to a competent professional to execute your plans. If your priority is for you, your fiancé and your families to relax and enjoy your perfect wedding day then wedding management is the answer.
If this sounds like you reach out, I’d love to help!