Is it possible to have too much information? Yes, especially if that information is mediocre or flat out wrong. The internet is amazing. With the click of a mouse, you can find anything, learn about everything and, let’s face it, buy anything.
In terms of wedding planning, the internet has brought a wide range of good and bad things to the table. Let us start with the bad (or at least bad by my definition.) Which is to say bad for you the engaged couple and sometimes for me as a professional wedding planner.
If you were to go to Google or any other search engine and type in wedding planning, you get about 72,900,000 results. Well, that is a lot of stuff. Refine your search to wedding venues near San Francisco that gets you down to 13,400,000 results still a lot of things.
Sure, you can refine your search further but will that get you better information? Not that I can see. It just gets you less or more, depending on your search parameters – not necessarily better. When it comes to planning your wedding do you want to spend your time slogging through millions of website, blogs, etc. or do you want to plan your wedding?
Don’t get me wrong I love the internet. I use it daily for research and shopping. My concern for you is there is enough bad or just slightly misleading information out there to cause heartache.
Most of the information is the person publishing’s point of view and depth of knowledge (like this blog). Contrary to what you might think, there is no definitive source or governing body for wedding planning; leaving you to fend for yourselves in the vast sea of information.
I hear you saying “Thanks, Gwen that’s helpful.” Although I appreciate the sarcasm, my point is this “emptor cavete” Latin for buyer beware. Just because something is on the internet does not make it legitimate, safe or providing accurate information. Put another way just because they have a website and/or a Facebook page does not mean anything other than they are capable of using a computer. You still have to do your homework; you have to talk to them and others to find out if they are a good fit for you.
Please don’t blindly trust the numbers and calculations out there about the cost of your wedding or any of the individual products and services. Some are adequate; most are calculated on averages – meaning they are not accurate enough for any region nor do they take into account the uniqueness of your wedding. Every wedding – no matter how it may look from the outside – is as different and unique as a snowflake, no two are alike. If two couples spend the same amount of money on their wedding, how they spent it would be vastly different.
Don’t give into the temptation of trusting the internet alone with the planning of this very precious day in your life. Instead, use the internet as a tool to help you find the right goods and services for you.
The internet allows for 24/7 access to information. It provides a fast and efficient transfer of information. It works for us while we are doing other things. The internet is an amazing tool, a tool you should use while planning your wedding but, like all tools, use it with caution.
Oh, I almost forgot to tell you why the internet is sometimes not good for me as a professional wedding planner. The internet provides people a false sense of security – it lets you think you can do everything yourself. Including planning your wedding without a professional wedding planner, that is not particularly good for business. Sure, you could plan your wedding on-line without a professional wedding planner. It’s also true that there is more to planning a wedding than any online planning tool can do. So yes, you can plan your wedding without a professional wedding planner but, in my admittedly biased opinion, it will not be as warm and personal an experience as it should be.
Best wishes for an enjoyable wedding planning experience and a long happy marriage, Gwen
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A little about Gwen: I launched Where to Start in 1991. My corporate world experience taught me the management skills necessary to work with multiple vendors and get the best for my clients. Also, my broadcasting and theater studies play a significant role in how I see weddings.
I love getting to know my clients – finding out what makes them happy, what they love in life and about each other. I combine this knowledge with my experience to create your perfect wedding.
I hope you will allow me the privilege of helping you create your perfect wedding.